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pretti_punk_chic

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people these days.....

it's kinda weird how you and some other person can be making up from some major fight you had... and your ready to trust that person again...and then something bad goes wrong... and they hate you all over again and cant trust you worth anything.... i dont see how people can do that...i was really hurt when this happened to me and the person (who will remain nameless) i just dont really know how to cope with everything now...i mean yeah i've talked to my best friend about some of the things...but it's still hard at night to sleep...it's hard concentrating in class...and it just seems that i have been carrying a big burden on me now too...i guess i'm just asking for some advice...i have alot of things on my back right now...this just being one of them.....and i have no clue how to get it all off.... i have very hard troubles with this kind of thing so if you have any advice then plz tell me...thnx!!!!

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Monisawa

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Re: people these days.....

Personally to me, there is a line between trying to make up and puting up with someone; often people look for reasons to be mad at you and any escuse they can possibly find, they will hold against you.  I wouldn't make it a point to lose much sleep on the people who are constantly on edge, especially people who are fragile with friendsships and relationships...

The best way  is to try your hardest to make amends and if you have done as much as you possibly can, then it is their responsibilty to fulfill the rest of the process, there is no guilt on your behalf.  Sadly, you cannot control someone elses decisions and it will be their problem for not trying, or giving their all to the making up procedure.

I must admit, relationships like that are completely rediculous...  Poeople fight and absolutely hate each other and then make up... and then a little farther down the road, they blow up again.  I could never relly upon a fragile and emotional relationship that would drag me through depression and  stress.   I would suggest to establish that you are a friend, that you are willing to care about them and will always love them, and everytime they walk by, smile and say hi.  It is said in scriptures by Jesus Christ "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray  for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; (ST MATTHEW  5:44)"

Forgive yourself, forgive the person who is mad at you and after you have tried your hardest to make right, forget the guilt.
your friend,
mike

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