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What Kind of Man Do You Want to Marry?

 (Candy Bar Activity)

Have each girl choose a candy bar when she arrives, but don't let her eat it until later (Candy Bar Men  Descriptions. )   If you have more than 19 girls, have two of each kind or make up your own.   Then describe what kind of man each candy bar symbolizes. Describe attitudes toward work, family, womanhood, motherhood, the Church, honoring the Priesthood, children, etc. After discussing every candy bar man, explain that choosing which man to marry should be done with much more thought than choosing a candy bar. Gather suggestions from the girls or hand out lists of things the girls might consider looking for in a husband. Pass out stationary so each girl can make a list of qualities she's looking for in her future husband.

Remind the girls that it isn't enough just to marry a nice guy, or just a member, or just a returned missionary, or just to get married in the temple. They should make sure that the man they marry is going to be strong and active in the Church and that he has a testimony. Getting married to a man only because he is handsome, strong, athletic, rich, a good dancer, a good kisser, funny, or well-educated is not enough. Though it is nice to have those things, it is more important that you share the same goals and values.

Discuss with the girls that they aren't the only ones choosing a spouse. The young men they are looking at are also looking at them. If they want a solid member of the Church, a returned missionary, a smart, fun,  optimistic, creative person to marry, they must make themselves attractive to that type of person by being or doing those things themselves.

Be careful as you present each candy bar man that you don't imply that the girl chose or will choose that kind of man just because she chose that candy bar. Be sensitive to how each man is presented. Some girl's father may match one of them. Explain that each girl needs to be wise, think about what she really wants, discuss her choice with family and good friends, and pray to Heavenly Father for guidance when making this crucial decision. She should pick the best man for her.

Have candy bars for refreshments.

Decorate with question marks, wedding decorations, bells, doves, netting and lights wrapped together, or pictures of temples, etc.

CANDY BAR ACTIVITY (VARIATION) -  -My friend decorated the room with white netting and white lights, she set up a
table with a white lace table cloth and flowers and placed punch and cookies on it, placed some white paper bells around the room - making it look like it was set up for a wedding reception.  She wrapped the candy bars individualy in pretty wedding paper and ribbon.  When the girls asked what was going on she told them that they were going to a wedding ... theirs!  And not to worry that she had picked out a husband for each of them!   Since she had so many candy bars she decided to let the girls pick out some "boyfriends" before they married their man.  She
talked to them about dating different boys and not committing themselves to just one steady boy while they are in high school ... how that would help them decide what characteristics are really important.  The girls had a blast with it!!